No, not MY pole dancing days. I’m a 40-year old woman with two herniated discs – if I attempted to pole dance, there’d have to be a chiropractor and a bottle of Vicodin on standby. I’m talking about Miley Cyrus’ pole dancing days….
Honestly, when Miley decided to pole dance to her hit song “Party in the USA” at the Teen Choice Awards back in 2009 I wasn’t all that scandalized. She took a 3-second dip on the pole, and suddenly everyone was treating her like she gave Mickey Mouse a blow job on stage.
I took it for what it was – a 16-year old trying to let the world know that she wasn’t a little girl anymore. Personally, I think it would’ve been more disturbing if she were still trying to play Hannah Montana at the age of 25.
Given the over merchandizing and popularity of her hit Disney TV show, it was bound to be difficult for her to break free from the squeaky-clean Hannah Montana mold that she was kept in for four years.
Part of me was sad to see Hannah go because it meant that my daughter Meghan, who grew up right along side Miley, wasn’t a little girl anymore either. Even though Meghan isn’t straddling any poles, it’s obvious that she’s no longer the excited 9-year old that dragged me to see the Hannah Montana: Best of Both Worlds concert back in 2008…. although that shrieking little girl makes an appearance every now and then when Justin Bieber is around. (I’ve been dragged to that concert too.)
So would Meghan continue to idolize Miley during their transition into teenage/ young adulthood? I got my answer the night of the MTV Video Music Awards a couple of nights ago when Miley put on this performance….
It was clear to me (and probably the rest of the world) that Miley was officially hammering the final nail into Hannah Montana’s coffin…. with her ass. I had a bewildered look on my face as I stared at my TV screen while Miley shook her ass in front of everyone on stage like a feral cat in heat. Meghan was kind enough to dispel my confusion by telling me that Miley was doing the latest dance move called “twerking”. If you don’t have a teenager to keep you apprised of such important matters, I’ll give you the lowdown. Imagine that you’re having sex with someone in a vertical position. Now take away your partner so that it looks like you’re doing some kind of masturbatory rain dance. That’s twerking. And obviously Miley likes it…. A LOT.
I didn’t have too much of an issue with her “twerking” on TV – I lived through the 80’s and did stupid dances like the MC Hammer and the Cabbage Patch, so who was I to judge? But the twerking along with the tiny nude bikini, her tongue perpetually hanging out of her mouth, and her semi-pornographic use of the foam fingers made me want to blindfold Meghan and protect what little innocence she had left since discovering the internet.
If Miley was strictly going for the shock factor, then I think she hit the mark….
She probably hit the g-spot of every dirty old man watching, but it honestly made me a little sad to see her exploiting herself like that. I tried to look beyond the raunchy gyrations and porno-tongue to find the artistic element, but I couldn’t. I only saw a 20-year old who was trying too hard to make the world see that she was no longer the Disney poster child. Miley, believe me – we get it. Now can you PLEASE put on some pants?
All the factors that people have come to expect from a good pop performance: choreography, set design, costumes, and (of course) vocals, were all sorely lacking and nonsensical. Miley was so busy trying to remember to stick her tongue out and hump everything on stage that she totally lost sight of actually performing.
But what do I know? I’m a mom, and everyone knows that moms are lame by nature. We make our kids wash their hands, brush their teeth and wear clothes out in public – what a bunch of killjoys.
I was curious to find out what Meghan’s thoughts were after Miley’s performance. So, I tried to pick my chin up off the floor and save my opinions until I heard what she had to say. Before I could ask, Meghan simply said “Oh Miley, no. Just….. no.” I could tell in that moment that my daughter’s idol had toppled (or twerked) her way off of the pedestal that Meghan had placed her on nearly seven years ago. I don’t think the pedestal started wobbling that night – it began two years ago when Miley started to morph into a “party girl” that Meghan could no longer identify with.
You should know that Meghan doesn’t pledge or retract her allegiance sporadically. Once she decides to bring someone into her little world, she’s fiercely loyal to them, often for years – it’s like the Meghan mafia. You talk shit about her idols, and you might wake up to find your beloved pet’s severed head in bed beside you. Which is why I think it was really hard for her to let Miley go. All of her Miley memorabilia is still in her bedroom, but instead of decorating her walls, it sits in a corner of her closet – small remnants from her childhood that she can’t quite bring herself to throw away.
I wonder who her next idol will be…. I just hope it’s someone with a shorter tongue and longer pants.